Yes, today is valentines day… Happy Valentines Day everyone!
I personally do not like the commercialism and pressures of holidays or special days. I actually loathe it. I am not saying there is anything wrong with buying gifts or doing something special for your loved one, I just hate the pressure it can put on an individual’s or one’s relationship.
I have been described as hard to please by my husband only because only a few things excite me in terms of buying me tangible things. However, over the years my husband has learned to study me and has realized that the things that excite some females do or do not excite me. He has recognized my love language and knows the things that matter to me. At the same time, I have done the same. This is one of the elements of a growing relationship. Studying one another after speaking the marital vows, the birth of your children and the milestones you will reach together, is important. We as individuals grow and change with time and experiences and it is important that the one we are on a journey with takes a note and is not left behind.
Marriage life is not all roses, however, OUR journey through this life together has been experienced TOGETHER. Even when my husband, or I, cannot physically “fix” a situation, we come together spiritually, pray for each other and the issue and then go from there. We have learned to connect at different levels and honestly, we have both grown through the learning experience.
Both individuals need to be willing to be vulnerable enough to let the other in. At the same time, I have learned that one should be able let the other see them in that vulnerable time in ones life. It will should eventually allow one to feel safe by their spouse and the other to know one of their purposes in the relationship.
This may sound a little complex, but in reality…. it can be, but it doesn’t have to be. As you grow together the trust factor shouldn’t become a factor and with that, your love will grow.
- Study one another, through conversation and observation
- Take the Love Language quiz and see what your love language is
- Discuss your results with your significant other.